Healing the effects of Bullying at School

A strong traumatic event from the past that clients often share is being bullied and teased at school. This can have such a strong effect on people’s lives later on. Many clients will say just how much bullying affected them in their lives. There has been more focus on this issue in the recent past but I thought it was worth mentioning it here again.

I enjoy working with kids with this issue. Parents will sometimes bring a child in for help with the anxiety and stress of such bullying.

Body based and movement work is excellent for this. Helping a child fight and hit back at the bullies in a session (kicking and punching into a big cushion) helps to release much pent up fight/flight stress in the child’s body. They feel great after, their confidence goes up and often the bullying stops.

So it is good to get it early in a child’s life. Sessions help provide a safe place for a child to gently get their physical power back. They may hit into a cushion tentatively at first, but eventually they can be pounding with a strong force that gives enormous confidence after. With strong overpowering bullying a child will retract and hide their power away for safety. If this happens for too long, a child will forget that they have this power available within them. Sessions help to coax this important fight reflex back out again.

Healing Trauma Naturally

One of my specialty areas in my therapeutic work is helping with healing trauma. Traumas that are anxiety and panic creating within you that won’t switch off. Many people have such places within them, reactions that can’t be switched off easily and that can be triggered at the slightest hint of an unsafe situation or reminder of the original cause of the fear.

I attended a seminar recently that updated on the latest neuroscience research. One thing that perked my ears was hearing that scientists are working on discovering what causes this reactive fear in people and finding a way to switch that off. It was labeled as an ‘old brain’ reactive part carried over from our ancestral heritage that isn’t useful to us in this day and age.

My view is a bit different to this. I don’t think this ‘old brain’ piece of programming within us is such a bad thing. What we really should be looking at is why this reaction was created in the first place. And that takes us back to the cause of the problem, an old traumatic event where we couldn’t protect ourselves adequately enough, leaving unfinished the fight/flight response.

So what we should really be looking at is, asking the question – how can we access and complete this flight/fight response in the body and mind? This is the work and research that I do everyday. Finding better ways to access and release this old fear/trauma response in the body. It is done naturally, and in a holistic way. This work fills the missing experience that the person did not have at the time of the trauma.

Once it releases a client will comment, (a real example:)
” I feel I have unlocked some part of me that hasn’t rested in a long time.”

That says it all. Some part has finally rested and relaxed for the first time in a long time. And a big fear and anxiety has just melted away permanently. No need to find a switch and use chemicals/medications to ‘switch it off.’

Anxiety and panic reactions are there for a reason. It is the body saying, ‘HELP! I’m scared!’

It is not advisable to go around switching this alert response off.

This is what medications/drugs do. Numb out a persons feelings so they don’t feel the body’s cry for help. The anxiety is covered over. Unfortunately there are side affects and other feelings get covered over too. Resulting in a lower quality of life and aliveness. This is not a solution – walking around half alive.

When a client releases a trauma naturally, they feel the difference within them, they feel the relief, the freedom, the lightness. They feel more alive, more authentic and more human again.

Working with the body, mindfulness and subconscious carefully enough, creates these types of results regularly.
This is the ‘real thing’.

“You’re a Lid Popper!”

At a recent Women’s Trauma Release group I am co-leading one of the participants after her individual session said with a laugh, “George, you are a lid popper!” We all laughed. And I agreed. What a great phrase I thought. A lid popper.

The Body Psychotherapy work, (especially the Radix Work) is excellent for helping people ‘pop their lids’ (in a  safe way of course.)

What are all the past pains and hurts and emotions that you have put a strong lid over to cover up and not feel ever again? Some people have many lids – and that can get very tiring, draining and create exessive thoughts quizzing around in your head. Not to mention the behavioural limitations and reactions they cause, and long term, if not addressed, disease.